Don’t get me wrong I do like the show. When you are a teenage girl and watching mainstream television, Buffy is simply a relief to watch. She does not need a lot of saving and is not a passive extension to the live of a male character, as what happens to a lot of female characters on popular tv shows. She is also not the “aggressive”, “sexually promiscuous” cautionary tale that we are clearly not suppose to identify with or even like.
However, just because Joss Whedon allows her to be a complete character by herself (the male love interests come and go), is not enough to make it feminist in my eyes. For starters the show never mentioned the word even though Whedon has said several times he meant for Buffy to be a feminist icon. The show also occasionally pokes fun at feminism such as when when a friend of Anya tells her: “You got that whole Take Back The Night thing going on.” Because Anya has a habit of avenging women who have been wronged by men. However the type of wrong doing the show meant is cheating, though that is not even remotely what Take Back The Night is about.
The vampires on the show are mostly hyper-masculine characters with most of their victims being women. So even though the shows allows one or two women to kick ass (Buffy and Willow) the rest are mostly helpless and can’t defend themselves. (No body bothered to learn some martial arts?)
Most characters on the show are white and whenever there does happen to be one or two character who are not white, they are merely used as plot-tools. In Season 7 slayers from all nationalities appeared, yet only one of them was black and another was an Asian woman who wasn’t even allowed some knowledge of some English. They kill off Kendra and replace her with Faith who is then allowed a much greater role in the show.
Most of the characters are straight and especially in the beginning we don’t see Willow and Tara having sex in the way it is portrayed when, for example, Buffy and Riley are having sex or in the way that Xander and Anya are having sex.
Also most of the characters have a fair amount of beauty privilege and none of them are fat. They even replaced the actress who originally played Willow in the original pilot. She was fat, but the show was never clear about why they replaced her. I suspect her body type was at least one of the reasons if not the only one.
I hate how the show forces a kind of bullshit sexual morality on it’s audience about women and what they think their sexuality is suppose to be. If we compare Buffy to Faith the contrast is pretty noticeable. Faith has casual sex and doesn’t care about emotional attachments and there are no direct consequences for her having sex. But later on the show makes it pretty clear that Faith is crazy and not exactly a character we should take for a role model.
Buffy on the other hand is kept almost virginal and is punished severely almost every time she has sex. First Angel loses his soul (something which I also find a fucked up metaphor, because apparently a person has to be soulless to do all the things he does, so we can distance ourselves from such behavior?), Parker treats her like dirt and her sexual encounters with Spike are very violent and abusive almost every time. With Riley she is not punished for having sex, but their relationship is none the less disturbing to me.
Riley tells her outright that he thinks women can’t handle themselves and need men to protect them and has a huge problem with the fact that Buffy is stronger. He makes it very clear he feels emasculated when he loses the super powers he had, due to the government issued drugs. Also there is a confrontation between him and Parker that shows Riley to be a bit of a misogynist.
Parker tells Riley that he thinks Buffy is needy and then compares all first year female college students to toilets. Riley then punches him. You’d say that Parker more than deserved getting his ass kicked over such a comment, but only a scene later we see that he didn’t punch Parker for comparing women to toilets, but because Parker said it about Buffy. Which shows that Riley doesn’t care if men insult women, just the women he wants to have sex with. His friends are no better in that regard and they are actually surprised that he punched Parker, because “they have heard worse”. Like that makes such comments acceptable.
Finally the relationship between Buffy and Spike is one of the elements of the show that fascinates and horrifies me the most. They compare Spike’s inability to kill people to an erectile dysfunction (this to me is like a synonym for men using their penises as weapons to dominate and control), but that’s isn’t even the worst of it. When Spike confesses to Buffy he has feelings for he, she talks about this with Willow and her mother. Her mother says something along the line: “Honey, did you sent him signals or did you lead him on in some way?” Both Willow and her mother then pressure her into confronting him to get him to change his behavior. Why the hell are they even holding her accountable for his behavior in the first place? This yet again perpetuates the message that men are incapable of controlling themselves and it is the duty of us women to make sure they don’t victimize us or do other reprehensible things. This message is extremely anti-feminist and is still perpetuated in courtrooms today where it is rape victims that are usually on trial and not the perpetrators.
In season 6 when Buffy is severely depressed and is having difficulties being around her friends, a curious friendship develops between her and Spike of brutal honesty (despite the fact that he often tried to kill her before and the people close to her). The next thing the show does is throw that friendship out the window and introducing the violence between them again, by making the chip ineffective toward her. (So that male audiences don’t have to feel emasculated by the fact that Buffy is obviously more powerful then Spike?)
The sexual relationship is an unhealthy one with all the violence and the frequent sexual assault from both sides. I don’t even want to count the times I heard: “No!” “Don’t!” “Stop!” “Go away!”. All signs of the people clearly not consenting. Then the show portraits a rape scene to as mark the other stuff as not being rape. I thought this was very judgmental and was an attempt to teach the audience what rape is and what is isn’t according to the show’s creators. Also when Spike made the final attempt to rape, Buffy tells him this:
“Ask me again why I could never love you. Because I stopped you.”
There are plenty of rape victims who have been unable to stop their attackers and a lack of physical strength is in most cases not even the reason. So what do the creators mean to say with this sentence? That if a victim fails to stop her (I say her because most victims are women) attacker, she wants it? She is in love with her attacker and that makes it OK for the attacker to force her? She is asking for it? Again, this made me cringe when I saw it.
Please tell me the difference between these:
Because they all look pretty coercive.
The sexual violence really wasn’t necessary and I often hear people say that what Buffy did was unwise. However it didn’t need to be if they had left the general violence and sexual assault out of the picture. Then it would have been a casual sexual relationship. Which many women I know of sometimes engage in when their lives aren’t doing so well, when they are simply looking for a distraction or simply a sexual encounter. And they can do this without sexually assaulting anyone or abusing their sex partners.
When Spike asks Buffy why she won’t sleep with him anymore, she answers: “Because I don’t love you.” What has love got to do with it? Why are “good women” expected to be in love with their sex partners? Why should that be a requirement at all?
Finally Spike blames Drusilla, Harmony and Buffy on several occasions for his problems. And Finally Buffy accepts responsibility by apologizing to him and tell him she is “using him”. When I saw that I felt like crying because I know too many women beating themselves up over similar situations and it really is never a fair accusation. But too often women are told they’re responsible for it all and they feel bad over it.
There are other reasons and I learned a lot from analyses in papers from this website: http://slayageonline.com/pages/Slayage/site_map.htm
But my reasons for not finding the show feminist is that it has too many anti-feminist sentiments and simply too many problems that didn’t need to be there.
Additional problems other people pointed out to me:
Buffy always seems to look for male approve, while not caring that much about female approval.
The show normalizes pornography by having one of the main characters use it (Xander owns several issues of Playboy, as mentioned in “Gingerbread”)
The way Spike learns he “impotent” is very much set up like a rape scene (he’s violent, he turns up the music). When Spike notices that he can’t bite/rape Willow, she feels sorry for him and wonders if she is not attractive enough to be bitten/raped.